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Homosexuality is a choice
why do some folks still think that being gay or lesbian is a choice?
most science shows that gays and lesbians realize they are this way early on in life, sometimes even before puberty. and yet, lots of folks like to talk about it...as if its a choice. a choice, that can be changed. ahhhh!!!!!!!!!! now I get it.
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Who cares? What difference does it make one way or the other?
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You have two choices:
1. Accept it. 2. Deny it and live a lie. There are many married men with families who are quite gay and closeted, if my experience is any indication. |
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i sure as hell never choose to be queer.
it was the way i was born. |
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fascinating.
though, I'm sure this is not the same for all gays. Kinsey's scale of homosexuality suggests to me that those who are less "strongly" gay, probably realized their sexuality later in life. or maybe I am wrong. who the hell knows. I prefer to just believe that all gays and lesbians are born that way. though I do have my doubts about many lesbians, who seem to have "chosen" their sexuality after numerous bad experiences with men, or growing up with a crappy dad. you never hear about men going gay, after being dissed by one too many girlfriends. |
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Homosexuality is no more than a depraved degeneracy.
It is the most horrible thing in the world to be. That's why no queer chooses to be that way. They cannot help themselves. Pity the fairies and their poor lot in life. They did not ask to be born a perverted mockery of nature. |
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Not odd at all, really. Humans are not rational creatures. It takes very little for our emotions to dominate our actions. Every single one of us has at one point or another acted out of anger, fear, hate, love, or other emotion - whether it was the "best" viable option or not.
Despair and loneliness are powerful, powerful beasts. Combine these feelings with the raging hormones of an adolescent, and it doesn't take much to see that it can lead to some very bad, bad places. |
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My question for men who think it's a choice is this: "Are you saying that you could choose to achieve and maintain an erection and have sex to orgasm with another man?"
If the answer is "No", then you're saying homosexuality is not a choice. |
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Has anyone who thinks homosexuality is a choice ever been asked to clarify whether heterosexuality is also a choice?
Surely, if one is the other is. |
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yeah i remember me swimming in the womb of my mother and thinking, what shall i be, Hetero-, Bi- or Homosexual, i then decided to pick Hetero. But then i made an horrible mistake, after i have picked the color of my eyes, hair and skin, i picked hairy breast and back. oh man i was born in the seventies, back then that was pretty cool and very sexy. how could i know how times change
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Now that I've got a few decades under my belt, I'm starting to wonder if celibacy is a choice.
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Well since the options generally given are nature and nurture or combination, and anything based on nurture would indicate that what can be learned can be unlearned, or changed, I made an assumption that you were going with nature, or genetics as the answer. If this is wrong, feel free to explain otherwise.
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"Biological" does not just mean "genetic". There are things like hormonal influences before birth.
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Not talking Fraternal twins.
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I'm not sure why some of you are looking at it as an either/or (black or white, yes or no), instead of a range with no definite points where you can say "over this line be heterosexual, over this line be homosexual, and in between are the bisexuals"....
Confusing a broad range with defined points isn't just a problem with this topic, but with many that come up (not just at the jref). Likewise, surely there are some people (most likely a very small percentage of g/l's) that actually did make a choice (not counting bisexuals). Yet, as was already pointed out above, thinking that it is anywhere near a majority and not a tiny minority is basically absurd. |
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